My Conversation with a Five-Year-Old

Once a month I volunteer with a group of kids through New York Cares. These kids are those that did well in school that month and therefore there are always fresh faces in the crowd. This past weekend I had the privilege of meeting a five-year-old boy who just blew me away.

We were teaching the kids how to cook and he helped me make the dressing for the salad. He had never seen oil and balsamic before, and was wowed at how the oil “pushed everything aside.” Seeing his face light up to something I see daily at dinner, not only made me laugh, but it reminded me to smile at the little things in life.

After cooking we went to the arts & crafts room, while the burgers were in the oven. We were sitting down coloring, where he was copying everything else a girl next was drawing and also critiquing my talents. He kept messing up and getting frustrated drawing crooked lines and flowers that didn’t look like flowers. I showed him the “magic” of markers and how you can just draw right over things to make them perfect again. Wouldn’t that concept be amazing in life? Drawing over things to get a redo.

He then asked if I would come to his birthday party. I said, “I’m not sure, when is it?” He replied, “July 11th and I can call his mom for directions.” I’ll be there with bells on!

He then began to talk to me about his family. He said that he wasn’t allowed to see his Dad anymore and that when his Dad would call his house his mother would tell him to be quiet and she would pretend he wasn’t there. He said he used to go to Church with his Dad every Sunday but now he can’t. He said he misses his Dad. I wasn’t sure what the situation was as to why he wasn’t allowed to see his Dad, so I nodded and tried to take the conversation back to his great picture of the sun, flowers and a house.

However, he kept saying he misses his Dad. I told him I’m sure his Dad misses him too and then started talking about how excited I was to eat the food.

He then looked up at me and said, “My Dad is dead.”

Myself and the other volunteer next to me had no words. This five-year-old boy needed to communicate. He needed someone to talk to and there I was.

It just made me so sad that this is what he is thinking about at five-years-old. It made me sad that that is the memory he has of his father – his mother pretending that he isn’t home. And I’m not one to judge, she probably had a good reason, but might have not realized how much he took away from it. I used to hate that saying when I was growing up, “You’ll understand when you are older.” I don’t know – sometimes I’m pretty sure the kids are the ones who understand and we are the ones who miss it.

Then the most incredible thing happened. He looked up from his paper, which was turning into quite the drawing and said, “Coloring is beautiful.” “Yes it is,” I replied. “Yes it is.”

Coloring is Beautiful

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Dazzle at the Super Bowl with these Vegetarian Recipes

Between Madonna in the half-time show, a new State Farm “Discount Double Check” commercial, and being in New York when the Giants play in the Super Bowl, this game promises to be amazing! So while the Giants and Patriots work it out on the field, what will you be whipping up in the kitchen?

Here are some creative recipes sure to delight your guests. Just make sure to make double cuz they might be gone by half-time!

Appetizers

Desserts

Drinks

Tip: Add some extra dazzle to your spread with a football field tablecloth. Buy Felt from your local craft store and using chalk or white paint turn it into a field. Then print out a Giants logo and a Patriots logo and put them at the goal lines. Push your table against a wall and then add some spice racks on the backside creating bleachers. You can also stack cups or beverages.

The Big Waste

This past September I was fortunate to have the opportunity to take part in a Food Network Special, “The Big Waste.” The show is about how much food we waste in America and what we could do with that food if it wasn’t wasted. The chef’s had 48 hours to get the food and cook a banquet. They were tasked with gathering the food from farms, grocery stores and apartments in the NY/NJ area.

Thanks to a good friend of mine who works for the network and really wants dibs on throwing barbeques on my rooftop deck, she suggested they use my apartment for part of the shoot. The plan was the chefs would come to my door and then rummage through my fridge to get items that I would throw out. They would then have to incorporate those items into their meal. I loved the idea. I mean how often do you buy produce that goes bad or is about to go bad but you still have leftovers to eat? What about that jar of jam that just sits there till you do your seasonal cleaning and toss it?

So on the day of the shoot chefs Bobby Flay, Michael Symon, Anne Burrell and Alex Guarnaschelli went out to gather the food starting with several family owned farms and then local markets. Unfortunately they ran out of time and weren’t able to make it to my apartment. However, I still had a delicious banquet to attend!

Donaldson Farms

Produce at Donaldson Farms

Pumpkin Picking at Donaldson Farms

The path up to the pumpkin patch at Donaldson Farms

Now I don’t want to spoil all the surprises, you’ll have to watch the show tonight on Food Network at 10pm EST, but I wanted to share some of the really interesting things I learned. I was seated next to Katie & Greg Donaldson of Donaldson Farms. (side-note: if you live in NY or NJ I greatly suggest you visit the farm for strawberry picking in the summer and pumpkin picking in the fall. Their farm is like no farm I have ever seen! They grow an incredibly large array of produce, and my friends and I left the farm with bags full.)

The Donaldson’s told my friend Cara, who attended the banquet with me, and I, about how their cornfield was destroyed by the hurricane. All the corn was still in good condition but it fell to the floor, and thereby according to federal regulations the Donaldson’s were not allowed to sell it. They also told me how when people go apple picking, everyone wants the best apples so when they find one’s better than the one’s they have in their basket, they put the old ones on the floor. Those apples are now not usable as well. What about the peaches that have slight blemishes? The rest of the peach is fine, but we have trained ourselves to only eat a perfect peach. Well, those leftover peaches are tossed into the compost pile.

We then asked them why such a large farm like theirs doesn’t sell to more supermarkets. (They are in the local Wegmans). They told us that the US has such strict produce regulations that most of the time it doesn’t pay for them to sell the produce in supermarkets. We also learned that supermarkets like the Key Food near my apartment are required by law to toss the unused produce every night. And why throw it out instead of giving it to a shelter, a restaurant, or the homeless man who lives on the corner? Because if someone would get sick off that produce, then the supermarket is held liable. So they must put it in the dumpster. The same produce that I bought at 6pm that day is tossed at 12am that night. Do you see the wheels turning in my head? These laws that I were completely unaware of, are now staring me at the face. These laws must change, but so must we.

DessertI’m not about to buy rotten produce, but that peach with the blemish…I can cut around it. And from one of those peaches came one of the most delicious desserts at the banquet. And from that corn, think lick your bowl good crème brulée. I encourage you to watch “The Big Waste” at 10pm on Food Network, as I think it will be an eye-opening experience.

alex guaranschelli & anne burrell

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bobby flay and michael symon

...and the food of bobby flay and michael symon!

Donatella Arpaia about to pop!

Donatella Arpaia about to pop!

kelly bensimon, todd english, and claire robinson

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